My brother and I are health care surrogates for my mom. My aunt recently was placed in a nursing home and my family keeps talking about how mom would need the same type of care. My father in law’s health is about the same as my mom’s health and I think she would need assisted living care or help at her home. I’m trying to figure out the best care options for my mom and wanted to see what options I have. Any advise or opinions will be appreciated.
I’m currently taking care of my dad. At 83, his mind is sharp as whip and still likes to make conversation every time I visit with him. Often times I feel living alone may not be the best option and think cause he loves to talk he should consider an assisted living facility as an alternative or an apartment at a retirement home. Dad insists on continuing to live in his own home is the best place for him so I make do to his wishes. I realizes you mentioned you are health care surrogates to your mom as I am to my dad. My advise to you is to consider all your options and the wishes of your mom and the amount of care she needs in order to be comfortable and safe. For example, my dad is extremely unsteady on his feet. I am afraid he will fall in his home. He basically lives in two rooms – his bedroom and his family room where there is a television. I told him he should not have the tv in his bedroom as he can still make it to the family room each day with his walker and needs to move and get out of bed. I cook all his meals and do cleaning. I have hired a gal from an agency to help when I cannot make it to see him. For the most part I think he would be better in a community but I have to respect his wishes. I can advise you also to encourage what makes her happy as much as possible. My dad still likes seeing his buddies at the Knights of Columbus so that is a big activity for him. He still attends church on Saturday and if I can’t make it I have the aide take him there.
I priced out assisted living and its expensive. My cost for the aide is about $18 an hour but I find that in home care to fill the need for his wishes to stay at home as long as possible. Good luck Gina and keep me posted.
As you age, daily tasks may become increasingly difficult to accomplish independently. Muscles weaken and bones become more fragile, leaving you semi-dependent on different forms of assistance to accomplish previously simple tasks. There are several forms of assistance that you may consider when in need, ranging from the help of medical equipment to the help of another set of hands, each providing the support to complete a variety of tasks.