After graduating from college, I moonlighted for an attorney. Frequently he would post employment opportunities and request that I review qualified candidates. I would often chuckle while reviewing these resumes trying to figure out what the person actually looked and acted like. To this day, almost twenty years later, one resume still stays fresh in my mind.

A woman named “Sally” with an impeccable resume graduated from Harvard Law School.  Her career blossomed at a prestigious law firm in Washington DC for a few years and then she claimed “Motherhood/Nurturer” as a job tile for the later part of her career.  Suddenly the image that I had envisioned of this woman went from a Hilary Clinton type to a frumpy lady changing diapers.  How disappointing.   I was young and wildly carefree, still yearning to be back in college with no worries.  At the ripe age of 22 with no children, I could not image how this woman could dare claim “Motherhood” and “Nurturer” as a full time job.   Better yet, her resume even defined her daily responsibilities as the gardener, chauffeur, baker, housekeeper, personal assistant, teacher, chef and nurturer.

Almost twenty years later and now with four small kids, Sally’s resume continues to haunt me. Haunting my mind not in a bad sort of way, but filled with admiration and gratitude for her humility and courage.   Sally was right. Motherhood IS a full time job.   I embrace Sally’s wisdom and applaud her for having the courage to boldly give a possible employer a mere taste of her daily life.  Sally was right to include Motherhood and Nurturer in her resume.  I often think of her when juggling work and family whether preparing lunches at 6am, finishing three loads of laundry each night, conducting a conference call in the school pickup line, or driving to karate practice.  Here’s to all Caregivers!

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Article Posted by Daphne Cook of SilverCensus Senior Living & Health Services

Senior Corps has many great opportunities for people over 55 to get involved with their community.

One program is called Senior Companions which connects volunteers with people with disabilities or that need help with day-to-day tasks.

They also have a program called RSVP that matches the volunteer’s professional skills with an organization that could use them. For instance, Senior Corps may ask a retired nurse to give immunizations at a local non-profit shelter or ask a retired builder to offer their services with a non-profit housing project.

Another great program that Senior Corps has is the Foster Grandparent Program. Volunteers are connected with young children in school that have a difficult time learning. The volunteer is matched with a student based on their needs.

I watched a video about the Foster Godparent Program and it was very inspiring. It showed three volunteers talking about their experience in the Foster Godparent Program with one of the children they are teaching.

One man said that there is a 40% drop-out rate for middle school children in his area and this program is saving lives because it keeps kids in school. If children are taught the basics of reading, it makes future schoolwork possible. The video also interviewed a teacher who said that she is thrilled to have volunteers in the class because they offer her students one-on-one coaching that is sometimes not possible when there are 30 kids in class.

Senior Corps is a national organization, so check to see if there are any existing programs in your area!

Post by Kate Valdovinos. Information from www.seniorcorps.gov.

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Need some inspiration to get involved in your community?

www.handsonportland.org connects volunteers with people in need of help in the greater Portland, Oregon area. You can help someone build their house, tutor a child, drive seniors to the movies, care for an abandoned pet, build a hiking trail, paint someone’s house, or any other thing. They seem very open to suggestions as well.

The website is really easy to use. There is a calendar so you can search what’s going on by dates, which can also be filtered by your age, what you want to do, who you want to work with, or your capabilities. You can also search through what is available by your location and be contacted when more opportunities come to your area.

Through their contact page, you can call them or e-mail to let them know if you need help with something or would like to volunteer.

What a great organization! Even if you’re not in the Portland area, this organization is a great idea. If there isn’t something like this in your area, use this as an inspiration!

Post by Kate Valdovinos. Volunteer website: www.handsonportland.org.

About SilverCensus:
SilverCensus is an unbiased senior living and health services resource where consumers are educated on options, facilities & rights. Our services are completely free for seniors and their caregivers as well as Hospital Case Managers & Social Workers who are committed to proper discharge.  Clients include assisted living residences, rehabilitation facilities, skilled nursing homes, home health care agencies, HUD developments & independent living communities.  We also provide free VA assistance for Veterans and their spouses.  Our Care Managers are standing by 24/7 at 888-776-1311 or through the web at: SilverCensus.com

 

I had a training session for a new job today and noticed the woman teaching me looked great for her age (which I didn’t know, but assumed something like mid-50s). The skin on her face was very smooth with hardly any wrinkles and I couldn’t find one gray strand in her beautiful dark blond hair.

I asked her what products she uses on her face to make her skin look so good. She smiled and said that she had just turned 60 the previous day and offered a bunch of advice on her lifestyle and other things in general. Right when I left I wrote them all down.

  • She doesn’t wear makeup and never really did.
  • She doesn’t keep track of lies people tell. It’s too much work.
  • She gives people the benefit of the doubt and assumes they mean well.
  • She believes that love is easy to give and receive.
  • She doesn’t smoke, drink or take illegal drugs. She uses prescription and over-the-counter drugs sparingly.
  • She is a very “deep” or intellectual person.
  • She admits her faults when it comes to things.
  • She has a basic organizational system for many things and writes things down to help her remember.
  • She doesn’t wear heals because they aren’t realistic.
  • She has a 12 year-old child which helps keep her young.

Yes, that’s a lot, but it was so great that I remembered it all. I think it’s very important to not only listen to others but especially listen to others that are older than you.

Post by Kate Valdovinos.

SilverCensus is an unbiased senior living and health services resource where consumers are educated on options, facilities & rights. Our services are completely free for seniors and their caregivers as well as Hospital Case Managers & Social Workers who are committed to proper discharge.  Clients include assisted living residences, rehabilitation facilities, skilled nursing homes, home health care agencies, HUD housing & independent living communities. We also provide free VA assistance for Veterans and their spouses.  Our Care Managers are standing by 24/7 at 888-776-1311 or through the web at: SilverCensus.com

 

A recent article in “The New York Times” by Richard H. Thaler expresses a realistic view of the problems of mortgages on houses that are greater than the value of the house. The following excerpts of Thaler’s article should be considered in determining if it is worth continuing to rent a house from a mortgage company if you can’t afford the rent

Much has been said about the high rate of home foreclosures, but the most interesting question may be this: Why is mortgage default rate so low?

After all, millions of American homeowners are “underwater,” meaning that they owe more on their mortgage than their home is worth. In Nevada, nearly two-thirds of homeowners are in this category. Yet most of them are dutifully continuing to pay their mortgages, despite substantial financial incentives for walking away from them.

A family that financed the entire purchase of a $600,000 home in 2006 could now find itself still owing most of that mortgage, even though the home is now worth only $300,000. The family could rent a similar home for much less than its monthly mortgage payment, saving thousands of dollars a year and hundreds of thousands over a decade.

Some homeowners may keep paying because they think it’s immoral to default. This view has been reinforced by government officials like former Treasury Secretary Henry M. Paulson, Jr., who while in office said that anyone who walked away from a mortgage would be “simply a speculator – and one who is not honoring his obligation.” (The irony of a former investment banker denouncing speculation seems to have been lost on him.)

But does this really come down to a question of morality?

A provocative paper by Brent White, a law professor at the University of Arizona, makes the case that borrowers are actually suffering from a “norm asymmetry.” In other words, they think they are obligated to repay their loans even if it is in their financial interest to do so, while their lenders are free to do whatever maximizes profits. It’s as if borrowers are playing in a poker game in which they are the only ones who think bluffing is unethical.

That norm might have been appropriate when the lender was the local banker. More commonly these days, however, the loan was initiated by an aggressive mortgage broker who maximized his fees at the expense of the borrower’s costs, while debt was packaged and sold to investors who bought mortgage-backed securities high returns, using models that predicted possible default rates.

The morality argument is especially weak in a state like California or Arizona, where mortgages are so-called “non-recourse loans.” That means the mortgage is secured by the home itself; in a default, the lender has no claim on a borrower’s other possessions. Non-recourse mortgages may be viewed as financial transactions in which the borrower has the explicit option of giving the lender the keys to the house and walking away. Under these circumstances, deciding whether to default might be no more controversial than deciding whether to claim insurance after your house burns down.

In fact, borrowers in nonrecourse states pay extra for the right to default without recourse. In a report prepared for the Department of Housing and Urban Development, economist Susan Woodward estimated that homebuyers in such states paid an extra $800 in closing costs for each $100,000 they borrowed. These fees are not made explicit to the borrower, but if they were, more people might be willing to default, figuring that they had paid for the right to do so.

Morality aside, there are other factors deterring “strategic defaults,” whether in recourse or non-recourse states. These include the economic and emotional costs of giving, the perceived social stigma of defaulting, and a serious hit to a borrower’s credit rating. Still, if they added up these costs, many households might find them to be far less than the cost of paying off an underwater mortgage.

An important implication is that we could be facing another wave of foreclosures, spurred less by spells of unemployment and more by strategic thinking. Research shows that bankruptcies and foreclosures are “contagious.” People are less likely to walk away from their home if they know others who have done so. And if enough people do it, the stigma begins to erode.

A spurt of strategic defaults in a neighborhood might also reduce some other psychic costs. For example, defaulting is more attractive if I can rent a nearby house that is much like mine (whose owner has also defaulted) without taking my children away from their friends and their schools.

So far, lenders have been reluctant to renegotiate mortgages, and government programs to stimulate renegotiation have not gained much traction.